Partnering with Agencies to Care for Your Surrogates

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Ready-to-Use Posts for Surrogate Support

 

At Infertility Portal, we are dedicated to empowering surrogacy agencies with the tools and resources they need to provide exceptional support to their surrogates.  Our collection of 12 thoughtfully crafted posts covers essential topics like dental care, exercise, managing swollen ankles, making safe fish choices, and more—helping surrogates understand their pregnancy and make healthier decisions.  These posts are ready for you to use as-is or can be tailored into emails, newsletters, or social media content to guide surrogates through their journey.

 

 

Automated Communication with Our CRM

 

With our customizable CRM, you can take this a step further by scheduling these posts, emails, or newsletters to automatically send at specific weeks of a surrogate’s pregnancy or on a preplanned timeline.  Our CRM also auto-tracks and displays the surrogate’s current week of pregnancy, giving you an instant understanding of the pregnancy stage.  This feature enables your agency to send emails at exact, preselected stages of the pregnancy, ensuring each message feels personal and relevant by addressing the specific milestones of that week.  The programming also accounts for unique situations, such as a loss of pregnancy, allowing for compassionate adjustments, or sending revised messages tailored to repeat surrogates.  The result is seamless, automated communication that feels thoughtful and individualized, keeping your surrogates engaged and supported while freeing up your time to focus on other priorities.  Partner with us to deliver unparalleled care and support for your surrogates, effortlessly!

 

Please do not hesitate to contact us for a free demonstration of our CRM’s capabilities.

 

 

Ready-to-Share Resources for Your Surrogates

 

In the meantime, feel free to use any part of this Ad series or adapt the contents into an email blast for your pregnant gestational surrogates:

 

1. Dental Hygiene

Dental hygiene and Surrogate Pregnancy

Tip to share with your Surrogates:

Oral health plays a vital role in both preparing for and maintaining a healthy pregnancy, as it directly impacts maternal and fetal well-being.

 

Pregnancy hormones can increase gum sensitivity, leading to swelling, bleeding, and a condition called pregnancy gingivitis. If left untreated, this can progress to periodontitis.

 

Research shows that poor oral health during pregnancy is linked to serious complications such as preeclampsia, preterm birth, and low-birth-weight babies. Prioritizing dental care is an essential part of prenatal health.

2. Exercise

Excercise and surrogate pregnancy

Tips to help your surrogates prepare for or navigate their pregnancy. The right exercise routine can make all the difference!

 

Here are some safe and effective options:

 

✔️ Walking: Simple, accessible, and great for improving circulation while managing weight gain.

 

✔️ Prenatal Yoga or Pilates: Focuses on breathing, relaxation, and core stability, helping to reduce back pain during pregnancy.

 

✔️ Swimming or Water Aerobics: Eases joint pressure, supports growing belly, and boosts circulation.

 

✔️ Stationary Cycling: A safe way to stay active with minimal risk of falling.

 

 

No matter your routine, remind your surrogates to stay hydrated and listen to their bodies.  Remind them that exercise during pregnancy is about feeling good, staying strong, and preparing for the exciting journey ahead!

3. Cat Litter Boxes

Changing cat litter during a pregnancy

Tip to share with your Surrogates:

Toxoplasmosis can lead to complications during pregnancy, including miscarriage and stillbirth. Here is what your surrogate needs to know:

 

  • Avoid Changing Litter If Possible: It’s the safest option during pregnancy if someone else can take over this task.
  • Wear Gloves and a Mask: If you must change the litter, always wear disposable gloves and a mask to minimize exposure to harmful particles.
  • Wash Hands Thoroughly: After handling cat litter, wash your hands immediately with soap and water, even if you wear gloves.
  • Clean the Litter Box Daily: The parasite that causes toxoplasmosis typically becomes infectious 1–5 days after being shed in feces. Cleaning the box daily reduces the risk of exposure.
  • Use Sealed, Dust-Free Litter: Opt for litter that minimizes airborne particles.
  • Keep Cats Indoors: Indoor cats are less likely to be infected with toxoplasmosis compared to outdoor cats that might hunt or eat raw meat.
  • Avoid Gardening Without Gloves: Toxoplasma parasites can also be found in soil contaminated with cat feces.

4. Safe Fish to Eat

Pregnant surrogate eating seafood

Tip to share with your Surrogates:

 

Did you know that mercury levels in fish can impact a baby’s developing brain and nervous system during pregnancy? Here is what your surrogates need to know:

 

Certain fish, like shark, swordfish, king mackerel, and tilefish (from the Gulf of Mexico), tend to live longer and grow larger, allowing mercury to build up in their tissues over time. For this reason, they should be avoided during pregnancy.

 

Here’s what the FDA recommends for expectant mothers:

 

✅ 2–3 servings per week (8–12 ounces) of low-mercury fish like salmon, shrimp, or tilapia.

 

✅ Limit albacore (white) tuna to 6 ounces per week.

 

❌ Avoid high-mercury fish entirely.

 

Making smart seafood choices can provide essential nutrients for the baby’s growth while keeping mercury risks at bay.

5. Sleeping on the Left-Side

Surrogate sleeping on her left-side

Tip to share with your Surrogates:

 

Here’s why sleeping on your left side is a game-changer:

 

🌟 Why the Left Side?

Sleeping on your left side improves blood flow to the placenta and your baby, ensuring they get essential oxygen and nutrients. It also helps your kidneys eliminate waste and fluids more efficiently, reducing swelling in your legs, ankles, and feet.

 

🌟 Starting in the Second Trimester:

As your belly grows, sleeping on your back can compress the inferior vena cava—a major vein that returns blood to your heart. This compression may reduce circulation and cause dizziness or discomfort. Side sleeping avoids this and supports healthy blood flow.

 

🌟 Pro Tip: Use a Pregnancy Pillow

A pregnancy pillow provides support for your back, belly, and hips, making side sleeping more comfortable and helping you stay in position throughout the night.

 

🌟 What If You Wake Up on Your Back?

No need to panic! Simply roll back onto your side. The goal is to spend as much time as possible in a side-sleeping position to support your baby’s health.

6. Tdap Vaccination

Tdap vaccination during a pregnancy

Tip to share with your Surrogates:

 

Timing Matters: The CDC recommends getting the Tdap vaccine between 27 and 36 weeks of pregnancy, ideally earlier in this window, to maximize its benefits.

 

 

Protecting Your Newborn:

 

  • Newborns are especially vulnerable to whooping cough (pertussis), a potentially life-threatening illness.
  • Since babies can’t receive their first vaccine until 2 months old, the Tdap vaccine allows a pregnant woman to pass vital antibodies to the baby before birth, providing early protection during those critical first months.

7. Flu Vaccination

Surrogate pregnancy and flu

Tip to share with your Surrogates:

 

Why Flu Vaccination is Essential During Pregnancy

 

  • Pregnancy naturally weakens the immune system, increasing the risk of severe flu complications like pneumonia, dehydration, and hospitalization for pregnant women.
  • The flu can also raise the risk of preterm labor and low birth weight, making vaccination a vital step.
  • Newborns can’t receive a flu vaccine until they’re 6 months old, but getting vaccinated during pregnancy allows the pregnant woman to pass protective antibodies through the placenta. These antibodies help safeguard the baby during this vulnerable time, significantly reducing their risk of flu-related hospitalization.

8. Staying Hydrated

Pregnant surrogate or gestational surrogate drinking water

Why Hydration Matters During Pregnancy?

 

  • During pregnancy, blood volume increases by up to 50%. Proper hydration supports this increase and ensures efficient circulation.
  • It helps prevent overheating, a common concern for many expectant moms.
  • Water aids in flushing out waste and reduces the risk of urinary tract infections (UTIs), which are more common during pregnancy.
  • Staying hydrated helps maintain regular bowel movements and lowers the risk of constipation and hemorrhoids.
  • It can also reduce swelling in the feet, ankles, and hands.
  • Dehydration may lead to fatigue, dizziness, headaches, and even uterine contractions, increasing the risk of preterm labor.
  • Drinking small sips throughout the day can help manage nausea and vomiting.

 

Hydration Tips:

 

  • Aim for 8–12 cups of water per day.
  • Check your urine: light yellow is good, while dark yellow signals dehydration.
  • Try adding slices of lemon, cucumber, or berries to flavor your water.
  • Keep a water bottle handy to stay hydrated throughout the day.
  • Don’t forget that foods like watermelon and oranges are also great sources of hydration!

9. Swelling of the ankles

Surrogate with swollen ankles

Here are some tips for managing and preventing swelling during pregnancy:

 

  • Staying hydrated helps flush excess sodium and reduce water retention. Aim for 8–12 cups of water daily.
  • Limit salt intake: Too much sodium can exacerbate swelling, so avoid highly processed foods and salty snacks.
  • Prop your feet on pillows or a stool when sitting to improve circulation.
  • Avoid crossing your legs as this can restrict blood flow and worsen swelling.
  • Gentle exercises like walking, swimming, or prenatal yoga can improve circulation and reduce fluid retention.
  • Avoid prolonged sitting or standing and take regular breaks to move around or shift positions.
  • Compression socks or stockings can help reduce swelling in the lower legs and prevent blood pooling.
  • Sleeping on your left side reduces pressure on the vena cava (the large vein that returns blood to the heart) and helps improve blood flow.
  • Avoid tight socks, shoes, or pants that can restrict blood flow. Opt for loose, breathable clothing.
  • Swelling can worsen in hot weather, so stay indoors during peak heat, wear light clothing, and use a fan or air conditioning when needed.
  • Gentle massage can improve circulation and reduce swelling.
  • If your hands or wrists are swollen, elevate them on pillows while resting.
  • Eat potassium-rich foods like bananas, sweet potatoes, spinach, and avocados can help balance fluids and reduce swelling.

10. Avoid harsh chemicals & fumes

Avoid harsh chemicals and fumes during a pregnancy

Avoiding Harsh Chemicals

 

During pregnancy, small changes to your daily routines can make a big difference in maintaining a clean, fresh home while protecting the developing baby. You may not have done these things during your own pregnancies—and that’s okay! Sometimes, we simply didn’t know what we know now. Armed with this knowledge, you can make safer choices today.

 

  • Choose pregnancy-safe, eco-friendly brands labeled as non-toxic or free of harsh chemicals. Example: Brands like Method, Seventh Generation, or Mrs. Meyers.
  • Create your own non-toxic cleaners such as a mix of vinegar and baking soda for an effective all-purpose cleaner. You can also use lemon juice for natural stain removal and deodorizing.
  • Always wear gloves when cleaning.
  • Work in well-ventilated areas.
  • Avoid aerosol sprays; opt for wipes or liquids to reduce airborne particles.
  • Painting during pregnancy is generally safe if precautions are taken, but exposure to certain fumes can be harmful. Paints may release volatile organic compounds (VOCs). Look for paints labeled as low-VOC or zero-VOC, which emit fewer harmful fumes. Example: Brands like Benjamin Moore Natura, Sherwin-Williams Harmony, or Behr Premium Plus Zero VOC.
  • Avoid oil-based paints, varnishes, and thinners, which have higher VOC levels.
  • Avoid pesticides and use non-toxic methods to control pests, such as traps or natural repellents.
  • Avoid air fresheners or candles with synthetic fragrances; opt for essential oil diffusers or natural alternatives such as essential oils (lemongrass, peppermint, or eucalyptus).
  • Keep fresh basil plants in your kitchen or near entryways as flies dislike the scent. Apply diluted lavender oil to your skin or use it in a diffuser to deal with mosquitoes.
  • Limit exposure to dust by wearing a mask when cleaning dusty areas to avoid inhaling particles.

 

Remember the developing baby is more vulnerable to chemical exposure because their organs and systems are still forming. By choosing safer products and making small adjustments to your daily routine, you prioritize the health and safety of your pregnancy.

11. Weight Gain

pregnant surrogate and weight

Insufficient Weight Gain:

    • Increases the risk of preterm labor and low birth weight.
    • May lead to maternal nutrient deficiencies, which can cause fatigue and other complications.

 

Excessive Weight Gain:

    • Elevates the risk of gestational diabetes, high blood pressure, and preeclampsia.
    • Can lead to delivery complications or a higher likelihood of cesarean delivery.
    • Makes postpartum weight loss more challenging.

 

For Baby’s Health:

  • Too Little Weight Gain:

    • Can result in a small-for-gestational-age baby, which may lead to developmental delays or health issues.

 

  • Too Much Weight Gain:

    • Increases the likelihood of macrosomia (a baby weighing over 8 lbs 13 oz at birth), which may complicate delivery.
    • May raise the baby’s risk of obesity and metabolic issues later in life.

 

By maintaining appropriate weight gain, you can support a healthier pregnancy, smoother delivery, and a better postpartum recovery.

 

Here are two easy tips:

 

  • Eat smaller, more frequent meals to prevent overeating and manage nausea.
  • Drink plenty of water to support digestion and avoid excessive calorie intake from sugary beverages.

12. Packing Your Hospital Bag

Surrogate with her hospital bag ready for her delivery

  • Clothing:

    • Comfortable robe or gown.
    • Non-slip socks or slippers.
    • Nursing bra or tank tops (if you will be pumping).
    • Loose, comfortable going-home outfit.

 

  • Personal Items:

    • Hair ties or headbands.
    • Lip balm (hospital air can be dry).
    • Toiletries (toothbrush, toothpaste, deodorant, face wipes, shampoo, etc.).
    • Glasses or contact lenses and solution (if applicable).
    • Charging accessories for your phone.

 

  • Comfort Items:

    • Pillow from home (with a pillowcase in a different color to avoid confusion).
    • Blanket or shawl.
    • Relaxation tools (essential oils, stress ball, music playlist, etc.).

 

  • Entertainment:

    • Books, magazines, or a tablet for downtime.
    • Earbuds or headphones (don’t forget charging cables).

 

  • Snacks and Drinks:

    • Easy-to-digest snacks like granola bars or crackers.
    • Water bottle (many hospitals have refilling stations).

 

  • Important Documents:

    • ID and insurance card.
    • Birth plan (if you have one).
    • A copy of the Pre-birth legal hospital paperwork.
    • The Agency and your attorney’s phone number and email.

Series: Partnering with You to Care for Your Surrogates.

 

Author: Karen Synesiou, InfertilitiyPortal, Inc.