Sperm donation is a procedure where a man donates semen, which contains sperm, to help another person, referred to as the intended parent, conceive a baby. It can be used for various reasons, such as male infertility, the absence of a male partner, genetic problems, or for same-sex couples who want to become parents.

Infertility, whether male or female factor, can be emotionally challenging and may lead to feelings of shame, embarrassment, and low self-esteem. The idea of not being able to have a biological child after assuming it would be possible can be deeply distressing and may result in a sense of betrayal.

Seeking support from a mental health professional can provide specific information about sperm donation, help deal with the loss and grief associated with not having a genetic connection to a child, and support in improving communication, intimacy, and relationships. It’s common for intended parents to feel shame, stigma, and grief, which may lead them to keep the use of a sperm donor a secret and not disclose it to their children. However, it’s important to consider discussing conceiving and raising a non-biological child with a mental health professional and to have open conversations about disclosure with the child. There are no absolute right or wrong decisions in this regard, and seeking support and guidance can be helpful.

Men choose to become sperm donors for many reasons, including financial incentives, altruism, the desire to help others, personal experiences with infertility, or knowing someone who has gone through it, leaving a biological legacy, or supporting the LGBTQ+ community.

Infertility Portal encourages individuals and couples to seek support from mental health professionals to navigate the emotional challenges associated with sperm donation, parenting a non-biological child, and disclosure to the child. Our platform features content relating to these topics as well.